Today I turned 26.
Most people my age start feeling like they are getting old. Start freaking out because they are more than half way to 30 and start projecting about their age, and how far behind they are in their life. Before you know it they start to worry about getting married, having kids or getting a promotion on their 5 year plan. Suddenly they are talking about their 40s, 50s, 60s, and so on. “When am I going to get it done?!”, “When will I get there”, “Only 5 or 10 more years until I start feeling happy with my life”…. They start thinking.
Get it done? . . .
Are these tasks in your life to accomplish or actual parts of your life and journey? What is the constant rush? If you just got anxiety from reading all of that because it’s relatable to your lifestyle, I’m going to tell you to pause reading this for a moment and stop rushing. Take a breather. Meditate for 5 minutes. Relax and think of something that brings you happiness. Come back to this after you’ve done so. For real.
I wasn’t kidding – go meditate for 5 – it’ll do you some good. If you haven’t done it before, now is the perfect excuse to try something new. It is in fact my blog, and I say how it goes around here😉. Try closing your eyes and listening to this just for 5 minutes.
Okay, now that you’ve done that, let’s get back to the conversation.
When are we going to start enjoying the journey rather than only placing happiness on attaining the goals we set. We know where that leads us and why the cliche “money doesn’t buy happiness” phrase is entirely true.
My 20s are about focusing on me, building empires and setting my self up for a lifetime of success. I’m building, learning and building some more. I haven’t said “no” to learning anything thus far. It’s how I’ve gotten as far as I have on my own. Entrepreneurship, is absolutely not all fun and games. It’s not always just about getting to do what you want in life. Sometimes, you have to hustle on the side to build up to what you want. And, that’s where most people misunderstand the whole “getting to do what you want anytime you want” concept of entrepreneurship. However, although I have had to do things I may not enjoy or have enjoyed to get myself places, I have learned to embrace the journey rather than just only focusing on the destination. I’ve said “yes” to getting it all done and embraced the “make shit happen” way of being, even when I knew at the time it wasn’t something I would enjoy.
What I have to say about all of this after only doing it for 3 years, is that there comes a certain smoothness and powerful confidence within the art of knowledge. And because of that, while there are times I definitely am not looking forward to working at something – I am looking forward to the knowledge I will gain from it.
What I have said “no” to, is what everyone else thinks I should be doing now at my age. I am the only one that knows the journey I’m on and the vision I have for myself. No one else is in my head, or is on my life path. So, they don’t get to be a part in constructing how it goes :). And the same should go for you.
“Don’t compare your life track and level of success to others around you. Do, compare the different routes you can take with your life if you find yourself unhappy in the one you’re in. “
My 20s have been nothing but enlightening – I’ve graduated with a bachelors in business, launched two companies, traveled to several countries, conducted international business, busted into the fashion industry, took loads of courses (and still do), and picked up a ton of new skills that I would have never if I took the regular 9-5. This isn’t being said to brag, in fact even though I’m proud of all of this, I know I have a long ways to go. But, I’m saying it all because – we often choose to put on our blinders (like the ones that horses wear during horse races). When you are only focusing on yourself and trying not to compare yourself to others for your own health and sanity – blinders are great. That’s the time to put them on. But, when you are using them to block out any other energies or ways you can go about your life, options you have and/or other paths you can take – you’re just being naive. DON’T compare your life track and level of success to others around you. DO, compare the different routes you can take with your life if you find yourself unhappy in the one you’re in.
*If you find yourself struggling with this. Start by back-tracking and looking at how far you’ve come on your own journey. Separate from everyone else’s. That is something to be proud of.*
When I first started what was then Long Island Content Creations (L.I.C.C.) and is now World Creative – I had a plan. A strategy that I am still using to keep myself going. This small web design business has helped me fuel many of my past, current and future projects. Not only did I teach myself how to build websites, but also how to elevate my customer’s brand by picking up photography and videography skills. I started learning how to help individual brands grow by getting to know them, learning about their individual businesses, customers, problems and so on. This wasn’t a dream of mine, it was simply part of the process.
*If you’ve dreamed of starting your on business but shut it down because you don’t think it’s attainable/don’t think you can afford it, you are just choosing to shut the doors that are other options you have and are being close-minded. Nothing is truly, impossible. There’s always another way.*
Doing all of this with what was formally known as L.I.C.C, helped me pivot to digital marketing, where I’ve recently launched a course on helping small business owners learn how to grow and market themselves online, and especially during the pandemic. This took a while in itself, over a year of learning, reading, courses, and more trial and error on my own businesses. I conducted so much research on generations and consumer buying, then learned more on the psychology behind consumers and how to get them to make a purchase from you. All of this, which started from a side hustle of building websites which continued to still be my current side hustle that has not only help fund myself but allowed me to pick up on all the skills and knowledge I would have had to hire people for – for my second business.
“I’ve walked into show rooms for major brands in Europe, and flowed behind different designer’s ateliers. I’ve been invited in to places that most people on the street would never be able to get the chance to see. Never once, have I worked in the fashion industry outside of my own fashion business, nor did I graduate with a degree in fashion.”
When I started World Chic, many people were confused where the idea even came from. Little did they know it had been in my mind for years. Not only did I grow up wanting to go into fashion merchandising, but I planned on actually applying to FIT out of high school. I even started working on a portfolio for my application. But, life had a different plan for me and I started out at Nassau Community College, then off to CUNY – Baruch and finally SUNY – Binghamton – finishing off with a business degree. It was quite the journey.
*When I was younger, I used to draw dresses. And I’m not talking little frilly cute-sie dresses. No, I was legit drawing full on ball gowns, evening wear, glamour. I would watch all of the red carpet events and get my ideas from there and just sketch. I learned how to draw figures and then sketch my designs. Crazy to me to think I even did that. I had sketch BOOKS FULL of them.*
When I went to college, many people didn’t know my creative side, because I often was very business focused. But, that’s what helped me branch away from the typical bubble I’ve talked about.
With the craziness behind all of my interests, starting World Chic helped me branch into a huge number of different industries and was all self taught. And while I personally don’t think having many diversified interests is crazy, many people are often judged on hopping around from one interest to the next. As if, we are only allowed to enjoy one thing in life.
I’ve walked into show rooms for major brands in Europe, and flowed behind different designer’s ateliers. I’ve been invited in to places that most people on the street would never be able to get the chance to see. Never once, have I worked in the fashion industry outside of my own fashion business, nor did I graduate with a degree in fashion.
What’s funny is most people don’t understand or believe some of the ridiculous and numerous experiences I’ve had or understand where they came from/how I even got there. They only all happened because I said YES to fear, YES to change and YES to the unknown.
Let me tell you one thing. If you are too focused on your age and what you are accomplishing by that time, you are already losing to life. I’ve spent a lot of time worried about beating a number on the scale of age, all so I could reach so that a certain goal.
Life isn’t about that.
“If you’ve figured out what particularly makes you feel wholeheartedly fulfilled and happy, then I truly commend you.”
You’re only as young, wise, experienced and talented as you believe, trust, manifest and work towards. Read that again.
And if you are someone who says they will never work past 5, or that they only live for the weekends. If you hate the idea of learning more (whether that be through life experience, empathy of others, or actual tactical skills), taking a course here and there to pick up another skill or more knowledge, or hates reading a book. Then, well, that’s fine.
But, what are you living for in your life? Are you satisfied? Are you fulfilled? If you’ve figured out what particularly makes you feel wholeheartedly fulfilled and happy, then I truly commend you. I’ve taken a vow to never judge anyone on what they do if they are self-sufficient and are happy (well, as long as it’s not a crime ;)).
And the funny part is I’ve had people complain to me when they have to work past 5 and I’m here working almost everyday for the past 3 years out of school about 8 or more hours a day WILLINGLY for myself.
But, I’m not done. I thrive off of learning new skills. I thrive off of learning things that are outside of my WHEELHOUSE. And I truly, truly do thrive off of attempting to do what scares me because I know it will be good for me.
Knowledge is power. Experience can triumph over talent. Belief and manifestation can overtake reality.
I am 26 years young, saying yes to what may scare me, opening doors that appear glued shut, questioning what I am told is the only way and embracing the journey for what it is rather than only looking to attain the goals in exchange for happiness.
How old is your heart feeling? What about your soul? And now, what about your age in life? Do they match?
We all have to do things we don’t like in life. That’s the yin-yang of life. But, ask yourself, are you doing the things you don’t like to accomplish something you will soon love? Is all of the work your putting in going towards something great? If not, it’s time to turn the wheel a bit and get yourself on the right track. It’s never too late.